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4 March 2022 Blended Families This occurs when two people come together with children of their own. This can be rewarding while also bringing new challenges for the couple. Remember you are not just in a relationship with your partner but you are also in a relationship with their children/child. The children will have their own... 4 March 2022 How does our childhood affect our romantic relationships? As children, we internalise the messages we received from our parents and even our siblings and or grandparents from childhood. These messages tell us about the world, relationships, ourselves and even how conflict is modelled to us, and it is all internalised as normal. However, these messages can... 4 March 2022 How do relationships last long term? Couples who know it is important to walk away from conflict smiling, also understand the value of their relationship and the value of their partner. Their goal isn’t to hurt the other person but rather to understand the needs of their partner. A healthy relationship is built on friendship, trust, co... 4 March 2022 Relationships are not all about us They’re about the person you’re with too. Remember you’re not an island. This means you are not in the relationship alone, that there is another person to consider. What does this look like? It means the other person will more than likely have dreams and goals too. They may have triggers from past t... 4 March 2022 How well do you know your partner? Knowing your partner isn’t just about their likes and dislikes. It is also taking the time to understand your partner’s feelings and triggers and looking at things from their perspective. It is important not to put your expectations onto your partner. A person’s life experience will be the lens they... 4 March 2022 Relationships aren’t always smooth sailing They aren’t all sunshine and roses. There are going to be times both of you will disagree and even argue over a sensitive subject. This is not only natural for two people in a relationship but it is also healthy. Conflict is not a bad thing and it is meant to be used as a […] 4 March 2022 How much do you value your partner’s heart? What does this mean? Each person in the relationship has an expectation their heart will be protected. It is necessary for each person to feel safe. This can be in the way of emotional safety such as during conflict, keeping a promise, having their back, support and encouragement and even just respe... 4 March 2022 Taking your partner for granted It is easy for couples to take each other for granted. We forget to validate/acknowledge what our partner does for us and it is so important to feel appreciated and valued. When we don’t feel valued and appreciated we begin to pull away from our partner emotionally and physically because we don’t fe... 4 March 2022 How well do you understand your partner’s behaviour? Behaviour can be a result of relationship distress when one or both people become emotionally disconnected. When we don’t feel connected to our loved one, our behaviour can be predictable. We begin to pull away, become reactive or exhibit blame toward our partner. Our primary emotion is to connect t... 4 March 2022 Do you feel the same in your relationship? At the altar, whether in front of a Pastor or Marriage Celebrant, two people made promises to each other along the lines of honouring each other, to remain faithful and only having eyes for the other. Maybe you made promises to love and to hold until you both grow old. On your wedding day, you […] 4 March 2022 Conflict and trauma Often conflict comes from a partner’s pain from past trauma. They self-sabotage their relationship because they don’t have the luxury to hope things will change in the relationship. In the past hope has let them down. Recognising the pain in their partner can stop the other partner from reacting to... 4 March 2022 Communication Issues in Relationships The issues in relationships aren’t the subject but rather the way two people communicate about these issues. Couples need to learn how to de-escilate their emotions during conflict. What happens during conflict is two people are on guard rather than showing vulnerability to each other. What comes ou...