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When One Person’s Betrayal Fractures the Whole Family
Betrayal doesn’t remain between two people. It flows onto parents, children, siblings and grandparents. It flows onto Christmas, birthdays, phone calls that stop happening and no longer getting invited to family holidays. Suddenly the family stops fighting about what happened. Now it’s about loyalty...
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When a Father Tries to Destroy the Mother of His children After Separation
Post-separation is meant to be about healing, stability and protecting the children. But when a man goes out of his way to punish, discredit, or destroy the mother of his children financially, mentally and physically, the harm does not stop with her. It ALWAYS reaches the children. Children may not...
Family Tension
Every family has seasons of tension. Arguments that repeat. Teenagers who shut down. Parents who feel unheard. Siblings who don’t get along. Home feels heavy and everyone is walking on eggshells. Family counselling helps bring calm back into the chaos. It’s not about blaming anyone. It’s about helpi...
Family Relationships
What happens when children watch their parents cut each other off in conflict, call each other names and put down the children? How does this affect all the relationships in the home and when the children become teenagers and adults? Dysfunction is Normalised Children internalise this as “this is ho...
When is the right time to introduce kids to your new partner?
Children need predictability, security, and stability in their lives. Just because you have moved on from the parent of your kids, doesn’t mean your kids need to. It is never a good idea to introduce every new partner to your child. It creates instability, anxiety, depression, anger and jealousy. Ma...
Blended Families
Blending families can come with a lot of challenges and fears. The fears exist before the 2 families decide to live in one home. Will my partner love my children? Will I be able to stay calm if my partner corrects my child? Will I be able to communicate with my partner without getting frustrated […]
Parent/Grandparent Alienation
What is parent/grandparent alienation and who does it affect? Parent/grandparent alienation can happen while both partners are still together or once separated. Parent alienation is when one parent turns the children against the other parent with the goal of isolating the children and parent from ea...
Alcoholism in Relationships
Alcoholism can pull apart relationships/families because with it is often deception to hide the behaviour and the finances to support it. Alcoholism can change a person’s personality and thus bring violence and aggression into the home. Alcoholism also creates mistrust and abandonment because often...
Gaslighting Parents
Generally speaking, gaslighting is an imbalance of power in a relationship. Gaslighting isn’t always a deliberate act of manipulation. Parents can gaslight their children through learnt behaviour. Gaslighting can be denying a child’s feelings or reality as well as telling them how they feel. Example...
Common Issues In Blended Families
Child/children feeling replaced by new family. Opposing parenting styles. A lack of boundaries. Boundaries not appropriate for age of child/children. Different rules for different children. Having to divide time as a parent between partner’s children/child and your own children/child. Partner doesn’...