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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
What is your overview of your relationship?
Do you see your partner in a positive or negative light? Do you respond positively or negatively to your partner when they ask you to do something? What about building a culture of appreciation? It’s the tiny thank you’s for little things that bring you closer. You need to deposit more positives tha...
Why do men pull away?
Things were going great. You couldn’t wait to message each other in the morning, throughout the day and even at night. You would ring each other during the day. You couldn’t wait for the weekends to come around to go out. Suddenly or even years down the track, you begin to notice your relationship i...
Getting over a breakup
Many times the person not doing the breakup is blind sided. They didn’t see it coming. They don’t recall any red flags to hint the end of the relationship was inevitable. Maybe their partner was still saying “I love you” right up until the moment they said it was over. But the reality is, a […]
What creates a relationship where two people feel emotionally safe to share their innermost feelings?
When two people have created a safe place for communication in their relationship then each person feels emotionally safe to tell the other how they feel. This needs to be cultivated from the beginning of the relationship and carried over throughout the relationship every day. When two people have r...
How do you build the friendship in your relationship?
You might feel fondness, admiration and love for your partner, but do those words come out of your mouth, come out of your fingers, come out of your body for your partner? How would they know how you feel about them? Different ways to create a strong friendship in your relationship is to ask open […...
Negativity in Relationships
Negativity has more chance to destroy a relationship than positivity has to heal a relationship because a lot more positivity is needed to cover up criticisms and putdowns, contempt and anger. Two people in a relationship have two very different brains. Each person is capable of inadvertently hurtin...
How well do you know your partner?
The things you do for your partner may actually be hurting the relationship. Men may think what their partner wants from them is doing household chores, the garden, mowing, cooking, washing the car etc. But their partner still isn’t happy. What is it they’re actually needing? For a woman, it isn’t j...
What is the apology language of your partner?
For many, just saying “sorry” when we are wrong is not enough. Sometimes your partner needs to hear more from you. Saying “sorry” isn’t always heart felt. Sometimes your partner needs more like “I didn’t mean to hurt you. Please forgive me.” Or “You were right.” Or “I should not have said that to yo...
How to make your partner feel emotionally safe in the relationship?
When your partner feels emotionally safe, this creates a close bond in the relationship. Without an emotional connection, there is no physical intimacy either including affection. So how do you create an emotionally safe relationship? Don’t criticise your partner for having different views or ideas...
Relationship Communication Styles
If you are struggling within your relationship, it maybe because you don’t understand your partner’s communication style and they don’t understand yours. There are 4 styles of communication. These are assertive, passive, passive aggressive and aggressive. Passive: Someone with a passive communicatio...
Signs your relationship/marriage is in trouble
🔹 ️You’ve noticed your partner has begun to pull away emotionally and physically. 🔹️ They don’t let their phone out of their sight and may have also changed their passwords on all devices. 🔹 ️They’ve stopped kissing you goodbye in the morning or when they come in the door at the end of their day....
Why does one partner continue to sabotage their relationship?
️🔹 ️Fear of rejection or abandonment, commitment, betrayal, intimacy, failure and lonliness. 🔹 ️Poor self-esteem, low self-worth, feelings of inferiority. 🔹️ Trust issues due to failed relationships or past betrayal. 🔹 ️Transference of unmet expectations onto partner and expectations they can no...