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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Trauma & Relationships
Are you aware of your partner’s triggers? Are you aware of your own? Do you know your partner’s needs and how to meet them? Communication is the key in any relationship to find out what we don’t know about our partner. Are you or your partner unknowingly pushing each other away because of childhood...
Arguments in Relationships
Are arguments really worth your time, energy and the cost of the relationship? At the time the small issues seem important but days down the track or even a week you may have forgotten what the argument was about. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Remember what the ultimate cost really is. Before you dec...
How do you know if you’re being gaslit?
What does this look like? Do you question why you’re so unhappy? You feel like you’ve lost yourself in the relationship and you’ve lost self confidence and self worth. Does your partner make jokes at your expense and says they’re only joking!! What they say sounds serious when said but you’re told i...
Relationship Struggles
Everyone goes through something at some stage and for some it can be on a daily basis depending on their job or even being a stay at home mum with a toddler. When your partner is struggling, do you know what they need or do you offer them what you need when you’re struggling? If […]
PTSD & Relationships
How do you know if your partner is suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? How does this affect the relationship? PTSD doesn’t have to come from war experiences. PTSD can come from traumatic childhood experiences or abusive relationships. The trauma doesn’t have to happen to a person d...
Relationship Mistakes
Relationships don’t just happen. Relationships take work every day. The longer the relationship the easier it is to take each other for granted. This is one of the major mistakes in a relationship. Why? Because when you begin to take each other for granted, you also forget to consider each other eve...
How well do you know your partner?
During conversations do either one of you misinterpret what the other person has said and then become reactive? Are you the one who is reactive or are you able to respectfully explain what you meant? Does your partner believe you or does the silent treatment follow? Without realising it, our past or...
Relationship Conflict
During conflict, it is easy to focus on how it makes you feel, deflect, justify your past behaviour and play the blame game. But how does this affect the relationship? It leaves two people not feeling heard, creates division, fracturing the emotional and physical intimacy. No resolution will be foun...
Listening in Relationships
How good are you at listening to each other during conflict? Do you listen to understand your partner or are you thinking about what you’re going to say next when your partner is trying to explain their perspective? Are you focusing on how the conflict makes you feel rather than trying to resolve th...
Gaslighting in Relationships
Are you being gaslit? Are you reacting to your partner’s insensitivity towards you then told you’re over reacting? Do you feel invisible and not heard and when asked what is wrong, you are abused for having feelings? Have you tried to communicate how their behaviour affects you but your feelings are...
What does respect look like in a relationship?
Respect can be anything from not only asking for your partner’s opinion but also considering their perspective and making compromises where needed. Respect is also seen in our communication styles, body language, tone of voice and the words we use towards each other. Respect is seen in the little th...
Intimacy in Relationships
Intimacy to one person could be different to another person. One person may consider cooking with their partner intimate while the other person may consider affection in the bedroom as intimacy. One person may see affection as intimate while the other person may see intimacy as working together arou...