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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
How well do you know each other?
When your partner goes quiet, do you automatically assume they have an issue with you, that you’ve done something wrong but you don’t know what it is. Or If your partner has reacted to you in a conversation have you asked them what is going on for them? It’s not always about us and our […]
Compromising in Relationships
What are you both like at compromising? Is it one person’s way or the highway? Do you consider the other person’s perspective? Do you hold your partner to a higher standard than you hold yourself? What are you like at forgiving? Do you hold onto grudges and punish your partner with silence for days...
How important is romance in your relationship?
Romance is like the grout and glue that holds the tiles to your wall. Without romance, your relationship falls apart. Both of you begin to take each other for granted. Date nights are forgotten. You both stop making each other and the relationship a priority. So what does romance look like? It can b...
Causes of disconnection in a relationship
Not feeling heard. Being undermined, spoken down to, belittled in private and in front of family and friends, Disrespected. Not being validated. Not feeling valued. Controlling behaviour. Abusive behaviour, e.g. psychological, physical, verbal, sexual, financial, coercive and spiritual abuse. Not fe...
How Connected Are You As A Couple?
What breaks the connection? It is normal for couples to have conflict. Conflict is the evidence of needs not being met on both sides and it’s the opportunity to support the other person in what they’re needing from the relationship, however, if two people are not in tune with each other, they each p...
The Games People Play in Relationships
Are you aware that you set your partner up to fail? Too often in relationships, one person will say “If you don’t know by now what I’m thinking, I’m not telling you!!” Or “I shouldn’t have to explain what I mean!! You should know!!” Or “You should have known what I meant by now!!” When […]
Relationships with Narcissists
Narcissists demand respect though they do not give it. They twist your defence response into accusations of attacks. Loyalty to them is paramount. If the victim challenges the behaviour of the Narcissist they are told they are not respecting the Narcissist. Every defence is met with a screaming matc...
Relationships and Codependency
In your relationship have you discovered you are now codependent on your partner? In the beginning you remember being confident and independent which was what your partner loved about you but now you feel needy, wanting your partner around all the time and you need to be constantly touching them. Do...
Why do successful women attract Narcissists?
Studies have shown 93% of women are empaths. These women take on other people’s energy and pain and have poor boundaries. It is easy for narcissistic men to take advantage of these women and even manipulate them financially. Women often have insecurities and low self-worth. Narcissistic men search f...
How well do you know your partner?
This might surprise you. Maybe your partner always goes along with your decisions. For years this has worked for them and you. They could be afraid to make a wrong decision and at the same time agree with everything you decide. But how well does this really work in the relationship? Maybe your partn...
To smack or not to smack?
When a child or toddler is smacked for doing what you don’t want them to do and they stopped the behaviour, you may think you got the desired result and so you continue using smacking as the go to in discipline. However, smacking does not teach a child to self-regulate, self-discipline or appropriat...
Is conflict good or bad in relationships?
This depends on how “good you fight.” What does this mean? Conflict is useful as a tool in relationships. It is an indication both people have needs not being met. So how do you make Conflict work for you? Examine the way you both respond in conflict? Does one or both people do the talking […]