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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Lack Of Emotional Connections In Relationships
Why does a lack of emotional connection continually come up as a major factor in failing relationships? Emotional connection is as important in a relationship as glue and grout are to binding tiles to a wall. Without the glue and grout, the tiles will fall off the wall and smash. Without an emotiona...
Are you sabotaging your relationship?
When you’ve found the right partner you can’t stop there. What about being the right partner? A relationship should be a place of growth. It shouldn’t feel like a prison. The way we navigate conflict determines the length of the relationship. Our childhood can determine our reaction to conflict. As...
What makes a good marriage?
The factors that contribute to a great marriage/relationship are endless but here are a few to consider. Unconditional love, forgiveness, valuing your partner, consideration and respect, quality time together, taking an interest in each other’s goals, dreams and activities; positive communication in...
Why is sharing feelings with your partner so important?
Every person in a relationship comes from a different family system to their partner. Some families love to share feelings between members while other families avoid sharing feelings at all costs. It is difficult when one partner comes from a family system where they learnt to shut down their feelin...
Gaslighting In Workplace
Are you being Gaslit in the workplace when no one is around? Do feel no one would believe you because the gaslighter puts on a good show for those in the workplace including management and people visiting the workplace? Gaslighters create their own reality. They have decided they are right and the p...
Emotional Reactivity
How often have you reacted during an argument? You’re frustrated because you don’t feel heard. No one is listening to each other and tempers escalate. There may be name-calling and yelling. Why do we react in this way and how do we stop the cycle? During an argument when tempers are flying our persp...
Emotional Affairs
Why is it so wounding? The absence of physical involvement does not minimise the intensity of devastation for the betrayed spouse. I have had clients tell me an emotional affair affected them worse than a physical affair because they not only gave their heart to another person but they told them lif...
Rules in Relationships
Are you a rule follower? Do you have the give and take rule in your relationship? Mary cooked last night so Mary says Trent has to cook tonight! Trent said to Mary because he vacuumed for her yesterday she has to put the bins out on bin night! Maybe Mary and Trent have grown up […]
Lack of Focus in Relationships
Many relationships don’t fail due to a lack of love but rather a lack of focus. When you stop caring about each other you lose focus of what is important in the relationship. Relationships are not about finding the right person, it’s about being the right person. If you’re honest, you looked for som...
Opposites in Relationships
Before marriage opposites attract. After marriage opposites attack!! The thing you liked about your partner when you were dating will drive you crazy now you have to wake up to it every day. Before marriage Brad was attracted to Jenny because she was mysterious and quiet but in marriage Jenny doesn’...
Offences in Relationships
The question isn’t are offences going to come into your relationship. The question is what are you going to do when they do come in? People can say things unintentionally to each other or it may not be what a person says but rather what they don’t do. It’s an unmet expectation. Unmet expectations is...
Relationship Conflicts
Every relationship experiences conflict at some point. Some relationships experience conflict more than others. Conflict is evidence of needs not being met in the relationship. When conflict reaches the yelling stage, neither person is listening to the other. One person may even walk away or storm o...