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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Family Relationships
Each family system is different. The way parents were raised may be different to the way they raise their children. Decades ago, children were seen and not heard. Children and adolescents did not have a voice within the family unit and they did not feel heard or validated. These days there is more e...
Are You Self-Sabotaging Your Relationship?
After experiencing childhood traumas or adult relationship trauma, we take our trauma into the relationship and or view our partner through the same trauma lens. Trauma affects our attachment style causing a person to have an anxious/avoidant or an insecure attachment style. An anxious/avoidant atta...
Taking your Partner for Granted
It’s easy to take your partner for granted when you have been together a long time. You forget your partner has needs too, focusing on your own. They may even tell you what their needs are but you tune them out because you’re so tired of hearing the same thing, what seems like day in […]
Consideration in Relationships
Relationships take consideration, understanding and compromise on both sides. It is important to factor in each person’s background and family system when one person is reactive, has a short fuse or is intolerant. It is important to understand each person’s needs and talk to them about them. Each pa...
Intimacy in relationships
Every relationship needs intimacy but what does intimacy look like to you? Maybe you have trouble putting this into words because you’ve both pushed the relationship aside for so long you’ve forgotten what intimacy looks like but you haven’t forgotten what it feels like and you’re now feeling like f...
How much influence does your family have over your relationship?
When one person has close connections to their family, their family’s perspective may make up a huge portion of their own opinions. Your partner may find it difficult to make their own decisions until they’ve run it by their family to hear their perspective on a matter and then be swayed by their fa...
Love Languages in Relationships
Do you know your partner’s love language? How would you recognise what your partner’s love language is? A person will give their partner what they need from their partner. Your partner might be overly affectionate while you are not. You might like to give gifts to your partner but your partner isn’t...
Would you recognise gaslighting in your relationship?
Do you find yourself second guessing your reality? Do you find it difficult to trust your own judgement? Do you feel guilty for your feelings? Are you afraid to tell your partner your feelings because your feelings are not validated by your partner? Does your partner tell you your feelings are wrong...
Why is validation important in your relationship?
Couples who validate each other have a more secure relationship. Validation builds closeness as a couple and as friends. Every person wants to feel valued, heard, understood and a priority in their relationship. Validation cultivates romance, and a stronger bond emotionally and physically. Validatin...
Important things to consider with a blended family
Make sure as partners you are on the same page and are a united front. Kids are very intuitive. They can work out what is going on between parents even if they don’t say anything. It will help the kids to mesh if their parents work well as a team. It helps them feel secure […]
Why is trust important in your relationship?
Trust cultivates safety and security within the relationship which builds on the emotional and physical connection because trust calls for each person to be transparent. Trust gives benefit of the doubt to the other person and cultivates forgiveness for mistakes and annoyances. A relationship with t...
Does being silly together have it’s place in your relationship?
When a couple feels comfortable with each other enough to be silly together it strengthens the bond of the relationship. A couple who can do this tend to laugh more and take themselves seriously less. Silliness cultivates a relationship of trust and security. This doesn’t mean there is no place to b...