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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
The Little Foxes
In a relationship, it is easy for the “little foxes” slowly creep their way in and strangle the relationship like weeds in a garden. The Little foxes refer to the moments you don’t feel heard or you’re shut down or dismissed. Maybe you’re unappreciated and taken for granted, making you feel like you...
Is Sexual Intimacy Missing In Your Relationship?
When you think of sexual intimacy you might immediately think of the bedroom, however, it needs to start outside of the bedroom to make it more pleasurable and fun when you do come together. I’m not referring to anything “kinky” like on the kitchen table etc. You might be surprised what is part of s...
Empathy in Relationships
How important is empathy in a relationship? Empathy means we can put ourselves in our partner’s shoes. How well do you understand the difficulties your partner is going through? Are you there for your partner at the end of each day? Do you check in with them daily to see how they’re going at work […...
Relationship Needs
If you’ve grown up in a family where your needs were pushed aside, the message you got would have been “my needs are not important”. This becomes learnt behaviour which is taken into adult relationships. What happens is you are drawn to someone who has a stronger personality and makes all the decisi...
Common Issues in Blended Families
Within any family there are going to be problems between kids and parents, between siblings and between parents themselves. With a blended family e.g. “yours, mine and ours” this complicates things 10 fold. So what are these issues and how do you resolve them? The way you choose to resolve these iss...
Is it important to be right in conflict?
What happens when there’s a right and wrong in every argument? The outcome is both people lose. If someone has to be right and the other person has to be wrong, this means no one is listening. What is more important? To win an argument or your relationship? If we are listening to get the […]
Intimacy in Relationships
What happens when your relationship is void of intimacy and what causes a relationship to become this way? Both people need to feel emotionally, physically, psychologically and financially safe together to want to be intimate with each other. When there is complete trust in your partner, you allow y...
Vulnerability in Relationships
Why is vulnerability important in a relationship and what does this look like? Being vulnerable is an important part of connecting emotionally. It says “I feel safe to be myself with you.” It connects two people on an intimate level, strengthens friendships, and the physical and emotional connection...
Does our past affect our relationships?
Understanding where we have come from and where our partner has come from helps us to understand ourselves and our partner. It helps us to understand and recognise any triggers in conflict and misunderstandings. Even the way we view the world, relationships and even ourselves, all come from the inte...
Communication Styles in Relationships
How is your communication style? During conflict do you both remain calm? Whether you resolve conflict or storm off depends on the goal of the conversation. Generally, a couple does not deliberately start an argument to hurt the other person. Conflict is the evidence of needs not being met for each...
Relationships & Cost of Living
With the cost of living increasing daily, families are finding themselves in deeper and deeper debt because they’re living beyond their means. So how do you reduce the debt? Answer: By working longer hours. This equates to generally either the wife staying at home to raise the children and look afte...
Do you feel you’re in a relationship void of any emotional connection?
It may have been there in the beginning but now you find yourself begging for their affection and time. So what has changed? In the beginning, it’s the newness, romance and natural physiological responses to a new partner. You enjoy finding out about each other and there’s a deep connection there. O...