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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Coercive Abuse in Relationships
What is coercive abuse? Coercive abuse is also referred to as abuse of power. Because the abuse is not physical, too often the victim doesn’t realise they are being abused. So what does it look like and how does it differ from physical abuse? Coercive abuse can be psychological, emotional, controlli...
Women in Relationships
Men, what is it that a woman needs in a relationship? Why does a woman pull away from her man? A woman needs to feel “safe” in her relationship. What does this look like? She needs to feel heard, validated, respected, valued, supported, loved and cherished. A woman needs to be treated like her man’s...
Men in Relationships
Why do men stay at work longer? Answer: Because he wants to, is the short answer. A man does not want to be criticised when he walks through the door. He wants to be listened to. He wants to be encouraged. He wants to be respected. He wants to be valued. If you want your […]
Communication in Relationships
Do you know how to communicate with your partner? We take communication for granted. Isn’t communication just talking? How many ways are there to say something anyway? A relationship without communication is a dead relationship. Couples must communicate every day but it’s how they communicate that’s...
Negativity the Silent Killer of Relationships
It isn’t so much what a person says that begins to kill the relationship but rather what isn’t being said. Negativity towards your partner and even ambivalence will silently destroy your chance of happiness. What you focus on, you magnify. It is easy to allow negative thoughts about your partner to...
Feeling Valued in your Relationship
In relationships, each person has a need to feel valued and a priority by their partner. When each person doesn’t feel accepted in this way it will affect the connection between two people. How important are your partner’s needs? Do you know what your partner’s needs are? Have you asked your partner...
Children and Words
If calling your children names, putting them down, screaming at them, telling them to go away, calling them stupid or an idiot, refusing to spend time with them, not supporting them in their sports etc, not following through with your promises or threatening to hurt them, hitting them out of anger c...
Has your relationship grown stale and you don’t know why?
Has life become so busy you’ve forgotten what’s important? Do you think back to when you dated and wish you could start again? When you were dating, being together was a priority. You made sure your time together was quality time; from long drives together to long walks, to embracing each other at t...
Vulnerability in Relationships
In relationships, it is important to feel safe to be vulnerable with your partner. You ask yourself the question can I trust my partner with my heart? Can I trust my partner to take my hand to support me when I reach out? Will my partner be there when I feel weak? If you’ve come […]
How important are the needs of your partner
How important are the needs of your partner? Each person has needs important to them. It can be anything from affection, quality time, holding hands in the car, cuddling in bed, cooking together, helping with chores, cooking your partner’s favourite meal etc. Has your partner been communicating thei...
Words in Relationships
Words play an important role in our relationship. You can use them to build up your partner or tear them down. Words tell us if we are valued by our partner or if we are despised, taken for granted and not appreciated. Insulting your partner, calling them names, and swearing to communicate frustrati...
Love Languages
Each person has their own love language which shows them they’re valued when their partner reciprocates their love language. What a person needs they will often give to their partner. If a person’s love language is affection, they may be very affectionate, needing continual cuddles, kisses, holding...