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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Relationship Strengths
Do You Know Your Partners Strengths? We tend to focus on the other persons weaknesses as well as our own. We can become critical of the other person and look for ways to change them. But what would happen if we focused on the strengths of both our partner and ourselves? When a couple recognises […]
Should We Stay Together For The Children?
Questions often asked around divorce. Won’t our children be happier living with two parents? Will our children be unhappy if mum and dad live apart? If mum and dad are unhappy living together, if there is a lot of conflict or silence between mum and dad to avoid conflict, if mum and dad are snappy [...
How Considerate Are You In Your Relationship?
Relationships are never about one person and both people have needs. It takes consideration to meet the needs of the other person. How often have you heard someone say well that’s just the way I am!! I’m not going to change for you!! A relationship with this mentality will have an expiry date!! So w...
How Our Words Affect Our Children?
As children we internalise the words said to us by our parents. We hold onto them like they are truth. This is why it is so important to be intentional with the words we speak to our children and to our partner. You’ve heard the expression actions speak louder than words. This carries a lot […]
What Direction Is Your Relationship Going?
Our words can build our partner and relationship up or tear them both down in a matter of seconds. Our words can literally change the direction of our relationship and be the difference of life long happiness with our partner or sudden death to our relationship. Our words can build confidence and se...
Relationship Questions
Do you feel heard in your relationship or are you being talked over? Do you stop talking long enough to listen to your partner and not just so you’re getting ready to say the next word? To listen to another person so they feel heard means to validate their feelings and not defend your position. […]
Taking Each Other For Granted
Couples generally put more effort into winning their partner over, dating and details of the wedding day than they do long term in their marriage. When you feel comfortable with your partner it is easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted and to stop putting the other person first...
How To Reconnect?
Touching Make sure you touch every day, whether it be cuddling, holding hands or kissing. We are made for human connection. Connecting on this level every day will build on your emotional connection. Caring Show your partner that you’re interested in their day. Ask open ended questions. Listen and v...
Punishing
Punishing your partner comes out of a place of fear to gain control over your partner and the situation. This is not coming out of love and the result is dividing and conquering the relationship. So as a couple you will divide and one person thinks they’re winning because they’re conquering their pa...
Under-Connected and Over-Committed
Couples get caught in the hustle and bustle of routine. This causes them to become under-connected and over-committed. The relationship doesn’t start out this way, however the longer they are together the busier their routine becomes. They become “plate spinners” and one of these plates is the relat...
What Destroys Intimacy?
Criticism, contempt, nagging, bullying, “mothering”, stonewalling, blaming, deflecting, name calling, yelling, any form of abuse or disrespect, put downs and deceit as well as addictions all destroy the emotional connection between a couple. If one person in the relationship does not feel emotionall...
When The Relationship Ends But The Family Continues
Separation Separating can be very traumatic for everyone involved, especially the children. So often the parent leaving sees it as them leaving the other parent and not the children. One parent may have walked out emotionally and physically on the other parent but I can assure you the children see i...