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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Are You Living In Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence isn’t always obvious. You might be thinking, isn’t that when your partner hits you? Not necessarily. So what does domestic violence look like outside physical abuse? You might feel too scared to bring up issues because of their over the top reaction. Maybe your partner yells or scr...
Victim Blaming
Victim blaming is all too common in cases of domestic violence. How often have you heard the victim questioned why they stayed so long, why didn’t they get out sooner or they may be accused of not being perfect either during a long term domestic violent relationship as if not being perfect warrants...
Coercive Control – Are you in it?
Coercive control is designed to control and micro manage, exploit, dominate and create dependency on their partner. Coercion begins with love bombing. The goal of love bombing is to manipulate the person into the relationship. It makes the person feel valued. The target is often a person who is vuln...
Using your child as a confidante in a divorce
Many parents fall into the trap of using their child as a confidante in their marriage/relationship or while going through a separation or divorce. If there is only one child, sometimes both parents will confide separately in that child about the other parent, confusing that child about who the othe...
To Stay or Not To Stay For The Sake Of The Children
When there is ongoing conflict in the home the children get caught in the crossfire. Children internalise the messages they get from their parents. The way their parents model relationships, parenting and even the way the parents model conflict is all internalised by the child/children. They carry t...
Narcissism and Gaslighting
Do you find yourself apologising after being abused or after having an argument that your partner started? If you’re sad or mentally and physically exhausted do you get yelled at for feeling this way then later apologise because you’re having a bad day? Do you show care and concern towards your part...
What Are Two People Looking For In A Relationship?
What is important in any relationship is to be loved for who you are. There is no better feeling than knowing you have your best friend beside you. Encouragement and building the other person up should be a big part of any relationship. Relationships need to feel safe in every aspect of them. For a...
What Does A Healthy Relationship Look Like?
Every relationship is different and that is because no two people are the same. Each person will have their own needs and desires independent from their partner as well as mutual dreams. It is healthy to have both. Actually it is necessary to have both. Each person needs their own identity. But what...
Relationships And Conflict
How well do you listen? During conflict it is easy to get carried away in the moment. Your partner is complaining about you and you want to remind them of what they did to you yesterday, last week, last month or even 5 years ago. You are not really taking in everything they are saying. […]
Relationships And Connections
Do you feel disconnected in your relationship? Or has your partner complained they do not feel connected? Look at your communication styles. Is one listening while the other is talking? Listening is not about waiting to get your say. Listening also involves validating the other person’s experience a...
Relationships And Childhood Trauma
Children who grow up in an unsafe or insecure environment where there is no comfort or protection learn strategies to adapt on a day to day basis. They learn to watch the adults around them, asses what the adults are feeling and judge their moods. They learn to shut off their emotions and feelings a...
Does Your Relationship Have An Expiry Date?
How often have you heard a person say “I never saw it coming.” Relationships don’t suddenly end. One or both people in the relationship will notice things are not quite right between them. They may think they’re both just going through a rough patch. But chances are one person will feel resentment t...