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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Boundaries In Relationships
How respectful are you of your partner’s boundaries? Do you know what they are? Your partner’s boundaries might be around the consumption of alcohol for you because of anger management issues, or because you need to sleep off the effects of alcohol over the weekend rather than spending time with the...
Resolving Conflict In Relationships
Do you find you and your partner can’t resolve conflict over the smallest issues? Does your conflict escalate quickly and you don’t know why? Do you call each other names in conflict and regret hurting each other later? Are you tired of hating each other at the height of conflict? Your reaction to e...
What state is your relationship in?
What state is your relationship in? Do you: Talk over each other? Deflect when your partner brings up issues? Blame your partner for your behaviour? Make promises you have no intention of keeping? Regularly stay out late at the Pub with friends leaving your partner behind with the kids? Do you refus...
Feeling Loved In Relationships
Just because you tell your partner you love them it doesn’t mean they feel loved. We often show love to our partner the way we need to feel loved, however, it might be missing the mark for your partner. You might be shocked to discover what you need to feel loved is not meaningful to […]
Past Toxic Relationships
Are you allowing past toxic relationships and messages to sabotage a loving relationship? Are you waiting for your partner to hurt you or make the same mistakes your last partner made? Are you emotionally whipping your partner now for the wounds caused by your last partner? Do you long to be loved i...
Words & Relationships
Words are very important in a relationship. They make us feel loved and valued or they can make us feel rejected and unsupported. You can tell your partner “It’s your fault I’m this way!!.” Or “You’re so sensitive!!” Or “You’re so lazy!! You never put anything away!!” What if you used words like: “I...
Love in Relationships
Just because you tell your partner you love them doesn’t mean they feel loved. It’s important to have a conversation with your partner about what makes your partner feel loved. Maybe your partner wants to be told they’re beautiful because they were bullied as a child or validated for how hard they w...
Does your relationship feel like it’s in a rut?
Does it feel dry? Do you ask yourself the question why are we fighting so much? Do you feel taken for granted, not appreciated and not heard? If you answer yes to any of these questions do you recognise patterns in your relationship? You might be thinking, “What patterns do I look for and what […]
Childhood Trauma
When we experience childhood trauma our body stores it and we take the negative and toxic messages with us into our adult relationships affecting the way we relate and react to our partner. Each person has their own way of dealing with childhood trauma from pushing the memories down, telling themsel...
Relationships Children
As parents, it is easy to lose your cool with your kids. You’ve had a bad day at work and your tolerance is low. You have asked the kids to get ready for dinner over and over again and they won’t stop what they’re doing. So what is the first go-to for a lot of […]
Every relationship has conflict
Every relationship has conflict. It is going to happen. Two people are not going to agree 100% of the time but what is important is you can still remain friends and lovers after the conflict. Often at the height of conflict, one person will storm off and the other person is left frustrated because n...
Why is it important to focus on your relationship as a couple when you are parents?
The mistake many parents make is they push their relationship aside for their children. They think it is more important to always put their children first above their time together as a couple. What happens is the couple is fully focused on being parents while the romance dies in their relationship....