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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Do you allow the pain from past relationships to sabotage your current relationship?
Do you attack your partner with past grievances they’ve caused when you’re losing an argument? Are you made to feel guilty for raising the hurt caused by your partner when you need to talk about them? Do you feel shut down and dismissed when you try to bring up issues? Issues will come up in […]
Do you know your partner’s needs and what does criticism do to the relationship?
Do you know your partner’s needs and what does criticism do to the relationship? Everyone has a need to feel accepted, loved, valued and supported by their partner, but women especially, want to know if can they trust their hearts in the hands of their partner. So what does this mean? This means to...
How important is it to listen to your partner’s needs?
How important is it to listen to your partner’s needs? What happens if their needs continually go unheard? Everyone likes to feel heard. It says they are important to their partner; that they matter. Below are suggestions of why your partner may be pulling away from you. Your partner continually has...
How well do you understand your partner
How well do you understand your partner and their needs that during conflict you understand their reaction is not about you, but instead it is because they have trouble expressing their needs and regulating emotions. Being overwhelmed and anxious in a moment can look like an explosive outburst. It c...
Is it possible to be a gaslighter in your relationship and not be aware?
Is it possible to be a gaslighter in your relationship and not even be aware of your own behaviour? If you have grown up in a household where one parent gaslit, using emotional manipulation rather than taking responsibility for their behaviour/abuse, and blaming the other person for their reaction t...
“Nothing changes if nothing changes”
There is a saying “Nothing changes if nothing changes” and the same can be said for relationships. If you are wanting things to change in your relationship what is going to be different between the both of you? Start changing your attitude towards each other. Welcome each other when you both walk in...
How well do you listen to eachother?
How well do you listen to eachother? Conflict is often about needing to be heard. When you’re not feeling heard you talk over eachother without listening to what the other is trying to say. Your tone of voice escalates trying to be heard. Try listening to understand your partner rather than listenin...
Relationships & Criticism
What does ongoing criticism do to a relationship? Criticism eats away at the relationship. The partner receiving the criticism loses confidence and selfworth. What is affected is trust, vulnerability, friendship and emotional and physical connection. Communication will deteriorate and the couple wil...
Are you feeling dismissed?
Do your feelings get shut down when you try to talk to your partner about your feelings? Do you get told what you’re worried about isn’t a big deal? Does your partner tell you because they don’t feel the same way, what concerns you isn’t important? What these negative responses do in a relationship...
Mistakes couples make in their relationship
Here are some of the mistakes I see couples making in their relationship. 1. Shut down your partner when you don’t agree with their feelings because it doesn’t match your own. 2. Your partner tries to share something important and you tell them you’re too busy to listen. 3. Your partner has been try...
Relationships & Affairs
An affair isn’t about sex. Affairs begin because one person feels lonely in the relationship resulting in an emotional and physical disconnection and even ongoing conflict, criticism, resentment, contempt, and detachment. It isn’t always the wounded partner who reaches out to the opposite sex outsid...
Why is a friendship important in your relationship and how do you build on it?
According to Gottman’s Theory, the level of friendship you have or don’t have is determined by “turning toward” your partner or “turning away” from your partner. What do these look like? Turning toward. You come home from work and you can’t wait to tell your partner about something exciting that hap...