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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
How well do you navigate through conflict?
Do you avoid conflict to keep the peace or do you engage in conflict but still remain friends and lovers? During conflict do you become enraged, and hostile; stop listening and talk over each other? Do you move into name-calling, blaming, defensiveness, deflection and criticism? When conflict reache...
Have you thought about what attracted you to your partner?
Was it their looks, their smile, their energy? You’ve been together many years, and now you have responsibilities like children, a career and maybe a mortgage or just trying to keep up with the rental market. It is easy to feel overwhelmed by it all and forget you’re still a couple. You’ve lost sigh...
Why is validation so important in a relationship?
This is what a relationship looks like without validation. a) Your partner tells you how hard their day is at work. You don’t stop what you’re doing and you don’t make eye contact to let your partner know you are interested in what they’re saying. b) You’re partner tells you they’re depressed and th...
Is your relationship in trouble and you don’t even know it?
Here is a checklist for your relationship. Do you feel lonely? Is your partner affectionate? Is your partner romantic? Do you feel valued? Is your partner considerate? Do you feel emotionally safe in the relationship to be your vulnerable self with your partner? Do you spend quality time together? A...
Taking Your Partner For Granted
It is easy to take your partner for granted in a long-term relationship especially if you are parents. You are both focused on parenting and forget you’re still a couple. How much attention do you pay to your partner’s needs? What about Birthdays, Anniversaries, Christmas or just because you thought...
How do you know when your relationship is in trouble?
A relationship is in trouble when one or both people stop respecting each other. Disrespect results in contempt for the other person. This may result in eye-rolling when the other person comments on something they’re doing or something that has been said. When one or both people become critical of e...
Connections In Relationships
What is your connection like with your partner? Is your connection romantic, humorous, holding hands, cuddling, friendly bantering, friendship, kindness and consideration, compromise, understanding, empathising, listening and validation, sensitivity and thoughtfulness? Or when you think of the conne...
What expectations stop a relationship from lasting long term?
“Relationships shouldn’t be this hard.” Expectations such as this put pressure on any relationship. Even the most romantic couple will have to put work into their relationship. Two people from two entirely different family systems cannot expect their relationship to just happen. Every relationship h...
Validation In Relationships
Every person needs to have their feelings, emotions and words validated. When this doesn’t happen in a relationship it sends the message the other person is not valued, loved, supported or heard. It always surprises me to see couples who either do not know how to validate each other or simply refuse...
What destroys relationships?
Relationships are about trust, and feeling safe in all aspects physically, financially, sexually, psychologically and emotionally. Everyone expects to be accepted for who they are by their partner without their partner wanting to change them. But this is not always the case. When your partner tries...
Why do victims stay in abusive relationships?
The short answer is because they are unaware they are being abused because the abuse takes place slowly over time. If the abuser was to abuse immediately before the relationship took place, the victim would hopefully run and not look back. A Narcissist will tell their victim everything they need to...
Childhood Impacts in Relationships
Our childhood plays a huge part in our relationship. It can cloud the way we interpret the messages we hear from our partner and it can affect our partner’s responses to our goals. Our childhood messages are internalised and we’re not aware these messages exist inside of us until we are in front of...