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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Relationship Issues
Often in relationships, one person will be telling their partner there are issues in the relationship and they want to go to relationship counselling with them, however, their partner tells them they are happy so the issue must be them. They’re the ones with the problem, so they need to get help to...
The words we say to a child do matter
We can make or break a child’s spirit by the words we use. A child understands both tone and body language. These can send a message of acceptance, love and support or a message of rejection, hate and feeling unloved. One message builds up a child while the other tears down a child. A message […]
Blending Families
You meet someone you’re attracted to. You begin to date. Now comes the time you both disclose you have children and you want to make this work. After a while, the children are slowly introduced to their new prospective families. Everyone looks like they’re going to connect and you eventually make th...
How tolerant are you of your partner?
Do the smallest things cause you both to be reactive? How you both handle stress will affect your relationship. It can be a combination of a hard day at work driving hours to work, coming home and looking after children, cooking meals and doing the chores. All of this can be enough to push you […]
Are you a good communicator?
You might be better than you think. Have you thought about what it is you are communicating to your partner? What are your actions and words telling your partner? Does your partner feel valued by your actions? What do I mean by this? Let’s say your partner wanted you to reduce the amount you drink [...
Have you treat and speak to your partner
Have you given much thought about how you treat and speak to your partner? Would they feel valued and listened to by you or do you show your annoyance with them quickly? Who do you go to for an opinion on an important matter? Do you go straight to your partner or to a family […]
Conflict In Relationships
Men and women are wired differently. Generally speaking, men tend to get over arguments almost immediately, especially if there has been an apology from another man. For a woman, generally speaking, they are emotionally wired. What this means is a woman may wound easily. If a woman does not have the...
Listening is Caring
Everyone deserves to be heard in a relationship but what does this look like? Listening isn’t just about being quiet while your partner is talking and you’re in your head thinking about what you want to say next. Listening is about eye contact, positive body language and listening to your partner’s...
Would you recognise gaslighting if you heard it?
Here are some examples of gaslighting and Narcissistic Personality Disorder behaviours. “You can’t feel that way because I don’t!” “You don’t have a right to feel that way!” “What you think isn’t important!” “You know you’re crazy don’t you!” “Everyone says you’re crazy!” “That never happened!” “I d...
Relationship Arguments
How often have you been in the middle of an argument and you’re thinking “Are we even in the same conversation!” You realise you haven’t been heard or understood and you don’t know why. You’re thinking “What aren’t I getting here?? Why don’t they understand me??” Quite often the messages we received...
Making A Relationship Long Term
No one enters a relationship expecting it to only last short term. You don’t buy a car expecting to have it for only a short time. How do you ensure your car will be around long term? You make sure you keep up with the services. You fill up on fuel as you get low. […]
Needs In Relationships
Do you know how to communicate to your partner to get your needs met and how important are your partner’s needs to you? All too often, when one person isn’t getting their needs met, they show love in a way they are needing their partner to give them. Maybe one person grew up in a […]