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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
The potential is a Fantasy
When relationships are new, everything is exciting and you hang off their every word and expressed thought about you. You miss any red flags because you love all the attention. Their flowy words make you feel desired. It may not take long before their true nature begins to rear its ugly head, howeve...
Are you in a toxic relationship?
Do you get told you can’t feel the way you feel? Are you abused for reacting to your partner’s behaviour towards you? Are you blamed for your partner’s abuse? “You made me like this!” I only said that because of what you said to me!” “If you hadn’t said this to me I wouldn’t have […]
Relationship Conflict
How do you measure your behaviour towards your partner? What is your method of measurement? Do you think you are doing well because you don’t hit your partner, cheat or do drugs? Do you throw things at each other, yell and scream, call each other names, speak to each other with contempt and criticis...
Disconnected Relationship
Do you feel a disconnection in your relationship? Has the intimacy disappeared? Are you avoiding conversations to avoid conflict? Are you both snappy with each other? Have you both stopped socialising together? Have you stopped having quality time together? Have you both stopped caring about each ot...
Validating Your Partner’s Feelings
Why is this important in a relationship? When your feelings are not validated by your partner, you don’t feel heard or understood. Sometimes it can feel like you are both on two different planets. When your feelings have been validated, especially in conflict, you know your partner understands and s...
Are you in a relationship with a Narcissist?
Every relationship will have its issues because no one is perfect right? But when you are in a relationship with a Narcissist, it takes “not being perfect” to a whole new level. So what are the signs you might be in a relationship with a Narcissist? When you first started dating they flattered you a...
Affairs
Affairs are always painful to go through because of the betrayal experienced by the person you have invested emotionally and intimately with. An affair is a betrayal because the person you feel the safest with emotionally has been emotionally intimate with another person. Often the offending party d...
Red Flag Relationship Is In Trouble
Communication is the pillar of any relationship. Without it, the relationship is looking at an expiry date. Some people come from families where feelings were not discussed or acknowledged. In some families, feelings were pushed down and ignored and there was no safe place emotionally to express nee...
Importance of Communication In Relationships
It is important for both people in their relationship to communicate their needs. Some people have come from a family system where feelings were not discussed. Maybe feelings were pushed down to avoid conflict. A child from this family system learns to avoid conflict and maybe to back down in confli...
Common Issues In Blended Families
Child/children feeling replaced by new family. Opposing parenting styles. A lack of boundaries. Boundaries not appropriate for age of child/children. Different rules for different children. Having to divide time as a parent between partner’s children/child and your own children/child. Partner doesn’...
Relationships Messages
Our past can determine how we interpret our partner’s messages. Whether it is our childhood or past toxic relationships that we are affected by past experiences can affect the way we interpret conversations. Defensiveness can come from a victim mentality because of previous putdowns, criticism and o...
Relationships Consideration
How considerate are you of each other and what does this look like? Consideration in a relationship ranges anywhere from listening to each other in a conversation to doing the other person’s chores because they either haven’t had the time, they’re not well, they’re exhausted or just because you want...