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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Relationships & Narcissism
Would you recognise lovebombing before the relationship began and after the relationship ended? In the beginning, lovebombing may look something like being made to feel special early on such as an overdose of compliments or gifts, taken to restaurants, or you may be referred to as their soul mate, b...
Domestic Violence & Emotional Abuse In Relationships
Emotional Abuse And Are You In It? What does emotional abuse look like? Does your partner explode and then blame you for their outburst? Are you walking on eggshells in your own home afraid you will do something wrong around your partner? Your partner gets up in a bad mood and you know to stay […]
Does your partner feel loved?
Does your partner feel loved, valued, supported or a priority in the relationship or do they feel replaced at times by your friends, alcohol, drugs, your work, sports, gaming etc? Has your partner pleaded with you to stay home so you can both spend quality time together but you ignore the pleas and...
Triggers in Relationships
Sometimes our reactions to our partner or our family and even outsiders can come from a deep place within us. We don’t realise we carry the trauma and burdens of our childhood. We can push the memories down and think we are not affected by them, however, our body stores the trauma, feelings and memo...
Relationships & Separation
There are many reasons why marriages fail. Anything from infidelity to ongoing conflict, not feeling heard, feelings not validated, not feeling respected, domestic violence, coercive abuse, and verbal and psychological abuse. When there are children involved this can make separation more painful. Of...
Does your relationship feel stale?
You might be feeling your relationship has grown stale. Maybe your partner has said they are not happy. Maybe both of you have become snappy with each other. Do you think back to when your relationship was better and you both looked forward to coming home to each other? Are the following missing in...
How to de-escalate conflict in your relationship
As a Counsellor couples say to me “We want tools to de-escalate conflict before they get out of control.” Here are some tools to de-escalate conflict. 1. When you are feeling defensive, say to your partner: “Can you please say that in a softer way because I’m feeling defensive?” 2. Don’t blame your...
Do you know what it is that makes your partner feel loved?
In relationships, couples often give their partner what they themselves need to feel loved without asking their partner what it is they need to feel loved or they think they know what it is they need to feel loved but they keep missing the mark because what you’re doing for them isn’t exactly what t...
Quality Time In Relationships
Why is quality time important, and what does quality time look like? Relationships thrive on time together alone whether it be watching a fun movie together at home with takeaway while the children are asleep to going out to the movies, a cafe, a restaurant, a walk along the beach, time away for a w...
How well do you listen to each other?
Have you wondered why men generally can put issues behind them and women, generally speaking, seem to hold onto issues? This is because men and women are wired differently. Generally speaking, men are solution-focused and want to “fix” a problem and because of this, they don’t understand why their p...
Should you stay in a relationship because of their potential?
Staying in a relationship because of a person’s potential is a big mistake that many people make. This could be for many reasons. 1. You’re an empath and can reason away you’re partner’s behaviour, after all, they do make you laugh! 2. You don’t know what genuine love feels like and you don’t want t...
Finding The Right Person
It can be very difficult to find the right person. You can spend years alone before you think you’ve found your partner. But sometimes it is better to be alone than to be in a relationship wishing you were alone. If there are red flags, don’t ignore them to avoid being alone again. Many people […]