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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Separation in Relationships
We teach people how to treat us through what we tolerate. Maybe it didn’t start out that way and you challenged the other person’s behaviour towards you, however instead of changing, they either became outwardly defensive with abusive communication or they became passive-aggressive through long peri...
Narcissism in Relationships
Mistakes we make in a Narcissistic relationship. 1. Believing the love bombing stage. The potential partner tells the person they want to entice what they know they want to hear. They mimic the victim’s personality, character, likes and hobbies to win them over. They romance the victim and make prom...
Abuse & Gaslighting in Relationships
Would you recognise gaslighting in your relationship if it was happening to you? What are the different types of gaslighting? 1. Deceipt: Lying about what you have said, where they’ve been, what they did to you and denying details. 2. Accusations: Accusing you of being too sensitive when reacting to...
Codependent Parents in Relationships
Would you recognise a parent interfering in your relationship? When a parent has not had their needs met as a child, they grow up insecure, holding onto their child/children. What this looks like is they control every aspect of their child/children’s life, living through their children, not allowing...
Criticism & Contempt In Relationships
When things are off track in a relationship, criticism and contempt can cause mistrust. The couple has replaced healthy communication with a negative script, writing the story their partner does not care what they think or feel while telling themselves they’re not valued, cared for, or desired and t...
Repairing Relationships
Don’t wait until your relationship is in trouble before you decide to have those deep conversations that should have been shared years before. Recognising there are issues in your relationship, and pushing them aside until your relationship is at breaking point is like deciding you should have swimm...
Communication in Relationships
Words are powerful and they can build up your relationship or tear it down. The lack of communication also destroys a relationship. When there is hurt caused, one or both people may pull away. They stop responding to each other in love. They begin to sabotage any attempts to repair the relationship....
A Transactional Relationship
What happens when your relationship becomes transactional and what does this look like? A transactional relationship is a relationship that works on the currency of tit for tat. What this means is the attitude between the couple is “Why should I do this for you when you won’t do this for me?” This a...
Feeling Heard in your Relationship
One of the most important things in a relationship is to feel heard. This makes each person feel valued, loved, and a priority. How do you make your partner feel heard? By showing them you are listening, giving your partner your full attention in the conversation and responding to what they are sayi...
Domestic Violence
Domestic violence comes in many forms and can be missed as domestic violence by the victim, especially if the abuser has chronic mental health issues due to childhood trauma and or addictions. Narcissists need empaths to draw from emotionally. Empaths are more likely to have poor boundaries, can be...
How to know you are in a Narcissistic relationship?
I have clients who ask me “Are you sure my partner is a Narcissist? You don’t even know them!” I explain by their description of their partner’s behaviour, reactions, accusations and emotional manipulation, I don’t have to know their partner personally to identify Narcissistic Personality Disorder....
Relationships & Separation
Telling children you are no longer together with the other parent. When you both decide the relationship cannot be saved, you will need to have that conversation with the children that all of you will be living in two separate homes. How you tell them can affect them throughout their childhood, teen...