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Relationships & Getting Your Needs Met
When a person doesn’t feel heard on a subject with their partner, they may repeat themselves over and over. Their partner may hear it as nagging and begin to tune out while developing feelings of resentment, contempt and criticism. This may cause them to pull away emotionally, physically as well as...
Gaslighting Parents
Generally speaking, gaslighting is an imbalance of power in a relationship. Gaslighting isn’t always a deliberate act of manipulation. Parents can gaslight their children through learnt behaviour. Gaslighting can be denying a child’s feelings or reality as well as telling them how they feel. Example...
Psychological Effects of Gaslighting
Abuse inside a relationship with a Narcissist can be overlooked when it isn’t physical, however the longterm effects can be more damaging than physical abuse. The primary goal of Gaslighting is to emotionally manipulate the other person and the longterm effects include: Depression Trauma Anxiety Dep...
Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships
Why does a person stay in a Narcissistic abusive relationship? A person does not realise their relationship is abusive when there is no physical abuse. When their partner mixes up the abuse with love bombing, then abuse and repeats the cycle, it throws the other person off center. They think the abu...
Love Languages
Meeting your partner’s love language is part of communication in a relationship. When you give your partner what they need, (hitting the mark), your partner feels loved, valued and that they matter. But “hitting the mark” isn’t always easy to do. We can think we are giving what our partner needs but...
Parent Alienation
Parent alienation is where one or both parents turn their child/children against the other parent. Parent alienation is for the single purpose of erasing the other parent from their children/child’s life to hurt, manipulate and destroy the other parent. The alienating parent may accuse the other par...
Morphing in Relationships
When you first start dating you want to please your partner by doing everything they want to do or just doing things for them. You may even have boundaries and values but if your partner’s boundaries and values do not match yours you might be willing to let these go. When you do this, you […]
Future Faking in Relationships
Future faking is the way it sounds. Future faking is when a Narcissist promises the world at the start of the relationship to get the person they are trying to snag. They make promises such as marriage, living together and or buying a house together, having children together, starting a business tog...
Conflict in Relationships
Sometimes couples think if there is conflict in their relationship they are doomed as a couple. However, this is not the case. Conflict is the evidence of needs not being met in the relationship. Don’t be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations with your partner. Take the time to listen. Get out...
Coercive Abuse in Relationships
You can be either in a coercive abusive relationship and/or committing coercive abuse and not be aware that is what is happening in your relationship. Here are the signs of coercive abuse. 1. Consistently screaming at your partner to shut them down. 2. Punching holes in walls and doors. 3. Throwing...
Communication In Relationships
When things are going well in your relationship you might avoid bringing up something your partner has said or done and you put it under the proverbial rug because you don’t want things to change. While the things that hurt you remain buried, you hold onto resentment, criticism and contempt. This le...
Am I Valued?
Relationships are about connection. The two ongoing questions in a long-term committed relationship are “Am I valued?” “Do I matter?” These questions are repeatedly answered through the way each person treats their partner and in their communication. When someone is truly listened to, they feel valu...