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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Codependency in Relationships
There are many aspects to codependency. A person who is codependent will Have poor boundaries. Blame themselves for their partner’s behaviours, words, and actions. Be afraid to tell the truth for fear of a person’s reaction. Enable their child or partner in addiction using poor boundaries. Think the...
Relationships & Coercive Control
What does control look like in a relationship and is it control if the victim stands up to the abuser? Abuser sounds like a strong word to use when there is no physical abuse involved in the relationship. There are many forms of abuse including coercive abuse or coercive control. Coercive abuse is a...
Starting Over in Relationships
Often couples have been together since they were teenagers. They have children together and ten or twenty years on, they have both gone in different directions. They no longer recognise their partner because their values, goals and dreams have changed. They no longer want the same things. They begin...
Positive Communication in Relationships
Positive communication is always the key to a happy relationship. When we are short with each other it allows for criticism, judgement, resentment, pride and contempt to creep in. Maybe you’ve had a bad day at work and conflict with work colleagues still fills your head as you walk through the front...
Relationships & Disconnections
Attitudes towards your partner can affect your relationship. It can affect communication, emotional and physical connection. Maybe the affection has stopped or the quality time together like dates have not existed for a long time. Have you stopped affection when you go to bed? Maybe the way you spea...
Failed Relationships
When you go into a relationship without doing the work on yourself after one or more failed relationships, you may find Mr right but be Mrs wrong for them. Many people use the next relationship as an exit relationship from healing from the previous relationships. The outcome is not only going from r...
Conversations in Relationships
When you are attracted to someone and you want to begin a relationship, It is important to have the necessary conversations. All too often couples invest in relationships only to discover 5 – 10 yrs into the future that their partner has fixed views on children etc. Does one person give up their dre...
Coercive Abuse in Relationships
If you are in a relationship where your partner is constantly swearing when they are frustrated or swearing at you because things are not going their way, this is not ok. Maybe you accept it for these reasons. 1) I grew up around this behaviour. 2) Doesn’t everyone do it? 3) All our friends do […]
Relationships & Connection
How to have a better marriage. Consider each other in all things. What does this look like? Ask yourself the question “How will my words affect my partner?” “How will my actions affect my partner?” “How will both my words and actions affect our relationship?” If both people are considering the other...
Gaslighting in Relationships
Gaslighters work from Fear, Obligation and Guilt. (FOG) Fear: If the gaslighter fears you will expose them to family they will threaten to accuse you of abuse to them. Or if you threaten to leave, they will threaten you with making sure you wont get the children. Obligation: Since I did you a favor,...
Alcoholism in Relationships
Alcoholism can pull apart relationships/families because with it is often deception to hide the behaviour and the finances to support it. Alcoholism can change a person’s personality and thus bring violence and aggression into the home. Alcoholism also creates mistrust and abandonment because often...
The Empathy Deficit
How does a lack of empathy affect a relationship and why do some people lack empathy? Empathy is nurtured from infanthood and it starts when infants try to connect with their parents or caregivers. An infant will try to connect by holding up their hands, searching for faces and even crying. If the i...