Gaslighting in Relationships

Gaslighters work from Fear, Obligation and Guilt. (FOG)

Fear: If the gaslighter fears you will expose them to family they will threaten to accuse you of abuse to them.

Or if you threaten to leave, they will threaten you with making sure you wont get the children.

Obligation: Since I did you a favor, you shouldnt be going out with your friends tonight.

Or since I did this for you, you have to have sex with me tonight.

Guilt: They will use guilt by making you feel bad for standing up for yourself.

A gaslighter will present as sociably acceptable outside, however inside behind closed doors, the mask comes off and they’re cold behind the eyes.

They are invested in their public image.