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Why Couples Pull Away From Each Other?
1. Feel unappreciated. Everyone needs to feel appreciated. Marriage is not about getting your needs met. It is about meeting the needs of your partner. 2. One person feels their opinion doesnt count. One opinion isn’t the only opinion that is important. Both people in the relationship need to feel t...
Conflict In Relationships 2
Couples often try to avoid conflict. They see conflict as negative within the relationship. To avoid conflict couples will bury issues rather than addressing them. This means the issues build up until there are so many issues one person or both in the relationship erupt with screaming and shouting....
How Children Cope With Parents Separation
When parents separate children are the ones who are caught in the middle. They no longer have access to both parents when they need them. Everything that was once stable becomes uncertain and surrounďed by fear. They can’t express or process these fears except through dysfunctional behavioir or grie...
Narcissism
Saying to a victim “They’re not perfect either”, is not helpful when they are leaning on you for support after coming out of an abusive marriage or relationship. “Not being perfect” doesn’t excuse abuse. None of us a perfect but we don’t go around practicing psychological, verbal, emotional, spiritu...
Are You In A Relationship With A Narcissist?
Narcissists do not take responsibility for their own failings. They will blame others for the way their life has turned out. They do not cope if their life doesn’t resemble what they had in mind. If a narcissist is depressed, you might ask them what the issue is. No doubt the answer you will receive...
Where Has All The Romance Gone?
Many decades ago, before FB and dating sites, the only way a person found their “soul mate” was to go out and socialise or get to know them while out and about. Nowadays, you can find your “true love” from your computer chair or while lying in bed on your phone. Instead of getting to […]
Co-parenting with a narcissist
It is impossible to co-parent with a narcissist. They dont do team work. If the other parent is a narcissist, you have to parallel parent. Narcissists love to provoke conflict because it gives them control over the other person. If possible, only communicate through emails and only communicate by ph...
Have you ever been Ghosted in your relationship
This appears to be the latest trend in relationships thanks to online dating. Meeting as many people at one time has never been so easy as it is today so people have become desensitized to walking away from relationships without letting the other person know. People talk online anywhere from a day t...
Are you dealing with grief?
It could be the loss of a relationship, marriage, loved one, pet, a job, income and even your home, your health or your goals and dreams. What do we do with these feelings of deep loss? What can we expect and how do we manage it? It is important to allow yourself to feel the […]
Conflict in Relationships
Conflict is healthy in any relationship and it is an opportunity to understand what your partner needs within the relationship. When two people are in conflict they are saying I am not getting my needs met. If both people are yelling at each other, they are shutting the other person down and not tak...
Relationships
When couples come together they often have trouble understanding each other and they miss each others communication styles. They bring with them the communication styles they were modelled as children. Whether these communication styles, (especially during conflict) are dysfunctional or functional,...
Have you been “Love Bombed?”
What is love bombing? Love bombing is extreme abusive behaviour of a narcissist who wants to manipulate another person they are in a relationship with. They do this by making the other person the centre of attention but the goal is to make that person dependent on them. This can be done by an abunda...