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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Relationships In Trouble
According to Psychologist Dr Sue Johnson when a person feels cut off in their relationship, they go into a state of panic. The brain codes this as painful and as a danger queue. Every relationship has moments of disconnection. If the connection is restored, the relationship becomes safe again. The p...
Reignite Your Marriage
Are you a couple who have been married a number of years and you find the spark in your marriage has gone out? Your conversations are about work, kids and marriage issues. But every time you bring up marriage issues you both end up yelling at each other because you’ve stopped listening and instead y...
Can I find love again with my partner?
The answer to this question is yes. What does it take? It takes being vulnerable, listening, validating your partners feelings, respect, putting the other person first and intimacy. This doesn’t only apply to physical intimacy in the bedroom. It applies to holding hands, cuddling, going for walks wi...
Remember when your Relationship felt brand new?
Do you remember those days when you dated and everything about the relationship felt brand new? You both flirted and put the other first. You couldn’t wait to see a text from them or hear their voice first thing in the morning and last thing at night. You looked forward to weekends to spend days […]
Conflict In Relationships 3
Conflict is evidence there are unmet needs in a relationship. Conflict can be used to improve the relationship, to bring a couple together. Conflict can be a positive experience if each person puts the other person first by listening rather than attacking, respecting the other person rather than cri...
Is your current relationship being affected by your past relationship?
If a person has experienced betrayal in a past relationship, you can subconsciously take these fears and mistrust into your current relationship and even subconsciously punish your partner for the betrayal caused by the previous partner. A person who is affected by betrayal in the last relationship...
Leaving a narcissistic relationship
According to Psychologist and therapist Perpetua Neo, it takes the average person seven times to leave an abusive relationship. Leaving the abuser can result in the abuser seducing you back. Everything has to be on their terms. If they are already violent, the violence is likely to increase after yo...
Why does a person find it difficult to leave a narcissistic relationship?
🔶 They believe their partner can change. 🔶 They remember the person they fell in love with during the love-bombing stage. This is a distorted fantasy. 🔶 Giving up on the relationship makes them feel they were never loved which is hard to accept. Staying in the relationship means to deny the abuse...
Children and Electronic Addictions
Why do children withdraw to their device? This often happens when there is a relationship breakdown between child and parent/s. They use their devices to retreat. So what can parents do to reverse this issue? Encourage family mealtimes without electronics at the table including mobile phones. This m...
As a man thinks he is. So shall he be.
Your past doesn’t have to define you. Your limited education doesn’t define you. The dysfunctional messages from your parents do not define you. If your parent/s abandoned you, that does not define you. Domestic violence in your childhood does not define you. Drug addiction is not who you are. Depre...
My partner cheated on me. Where to next?
Remain calm. Collect as much information about the affair from your partner. Was it only one time and if not, how long has it been going on? You have a right to know. Are they still in contact or has your partner blocked all contact? Is your partner willing to have an “open phone” policy? […]
Appreciation Keeps Relationships Fresh
Showing appreciation to each other every day is what keeps a relationship fresh. When you take each other for granted, it comes out in your attitudes towards one another. You have to create your own opportunities to share intimate moments together and you can still do this during isolation. Being in...