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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
What keeps a relationship going long term?
We know relationships are about companionship, friendship and romance, but most of all relationships are about loyalty, commitment, support, listening, and validating your partner’s feelings and perspective. A woman needs to feel emotionally, physically, sexualising, spiritually, financially and psy...
Coercive Abuse in Relationships
What is coercive abuse? Coercive abuse is also referred to as abuse of power. Because the abuse is not physical, too often the victim doesn’t realise they are being abused. So what does it look like and how does it differ from physical abuse? Coercive abuse can be psychological, emotional, controlli...
Women in Relationships
Men, what is it that a woman needs in a relationship? Why does a woman pull away from her man? A woman needs to feel “safe” in her relationship. What does this look like? She needs to feel heard, validated, respected, valued, supported, loved and cherished. A woman needs to be treated like her man’s...
Men in Relationships
Why do men stay at work longer? Answer: Because he wants to, is the short answer. A man does not want to be criticised when he walks through the door. He wants to be listened to. He wants to be encouraged. He wants to be respected. He wants to be valued. If you want your […]
Communication in Relationships
Do you know how to communicate with your partner? We take communication for granted. Isn’t communication just talking? How many ways are there to say something anyway? A relationship without communication is a dead relationship. Couples must communicate every day but it’s how they communicate that’s...
Negativity the Silent Killer of Relationships
It isn’t so much what a person says that begins to kill the relationship but rather what isn’t being said. Negativity towards your partner and even ambivalence will silently destroy your chance of happiness. What you focus on, you magnify. It is easy to allow negative thoughts about your partner to...
Feeling Valued in your Relationship
In relationships, each person has a need to feel valued and a priority by their partner. When each person doesn’t feel accepted in this way it will affect the connection between two people. How important are your partner’s needs? Do you know what your partner’s needs are? Have you asked your partner...
What Direction Is Your Relationship Going?
Our words can build our partner and relationship up or tear them both down in a matter of seconds. Our words can literally change the direction of our relationship and be the difference of life long happiness with our partner or sudden death to our relationship. Our words can build confidence and se...
Relationship Questions
Do you feel heard in your relationship or are you being talked over? Do you stop talking long enough to listen to your partner and not just so you’re getting ready to say the next word? To listen to another person so they feel heard means to validate their feelings and not defend your position. […]
Taking Each Other For Granted
Couples generally put more effort into winning their partner over, dating and details of the wedding day than they do long term in their marriage. When you feel comfortable with your partner it is easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted and to stop putting the other person first...
How To Reconnect?
Touching Make sure you touch every day, whether it be cuddling, holding hands or kissing. We are made for human connection. Connecting on this level every day will build on your emotional connection. Caring Show your partner that you’re interested in their day. Ask open ended questions. Listen and v...
Punishing
Punishing your partner comes out of a place of fear to gain control over your partner and the situation. This is not coming out of love and the result is dividing and conquering the relationship. So as a couple you will divide and one person thinks they’re winning because they’re conquering their pa...