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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Under-Connected and Over-Committed
Couples get caught in the hustle and bustle of routine. This causes them to become under-connected and over-committed. The relationship doesn’t start out this way, however the longer they are together the busier their routine becomes. They become “plate spinners” and one of these plates is the relat...
What Destroys Intimacy?
Criticism, contempt, nagging, bullying, “mothering”, stonewalling, blaming, deflecting, name calling, yelling, any form of abuse or disrespect, put downs and deceit as well as addictions all destroy the emotional connection between a couple. If one person in the relationship does not feel emotionall...
Can My Relationship Be Saved?
If two people are willing to work together, respect each other, stop all name calling, attacking, deflecting and criticism during conflict with added positive communication skills, their relationship can not only turn around, but they will feel that emotional and physical connection again. Learn to...
Cheating in Relationships
Cheating isn’t always physical. Affairs can be emotional, constant messages via texts, messenger, Instagram, etc. If your partner is constantly deleting their messages, changing their password on their phone, keeping their phone with them, unexplained time away from home or extra time at the gym, wo...
Living with a Narcissist
To those outside the family, they are charming and may even portray themselves as a victim. Within their family, they are abusive,(verbally, financially, sexually, spiritually and or psychologically and emotionally.) If they have children, one child maybe their “golden child” whom they are obsessed...
How Secure Is Your Relationship?
️Does something feel off between the two of you? ️Do you miss the closeness you use to have? ️Have you noticed you both have stopped communicating? ️Have you both stopped being physically and emotionally intimate? ️Is there more conflict or silence between the two of you? If you’ve answered yes to a...
A Relationship Changer
Active Listening ♦️ Active listening is a technique used to resolve conflict. ♦️ Active listening involves paraphrasing to confirm what the other person has said. ♦️ Active Listening involves not interrupting the other person but rather waiting until the other person has finished speaking. ♦️ Active...
What Does Trauma Bonding Look Like?
When a person is in a toxic or abusive relationship including drug addiction and or alcoholism, they remain in the hope things Improve. Why does a person in this type of relationship think things might change? Because some days outside of toxic and abusive behaviour look “normal.” If the victim is a...
Are You Trauma Bonded?
Does your partner break promises and you’re still waiting for them to come through for you? Your friends are shocked by the way you’re spoken to or treated by your partner but you don’t recognise the toxic behaviour. Your partner displays destructive behaviour and you just accept it because you don’...
Relationships In Trouble
According to Psychologist Dr Sue Johnson when a person feels cut off in their relationship, they go into a state of panic. The brain codes this as painful and as a danger queue. Every relationship has moments of disconnection. If the connection is restored, the relationship becomes safe again. The p...
Remember when your Relationship felt brand new?
Do you remember those days when you dated and everything about the relationship felt brand new? You both flirted and put the other first. You couldn’t wait to see a text from them or hear their voice first thing in the morning and last thing at night. You looked forward to weekends to spend days […]
Conflict In Relationships 3
Conflict is evidence there are unmet needs in a relationship. Conflict can be used to improve the relationship, to bring a couple together. Conflict can be a positive experience if each person puts the other person first by listening rather than attacking, respecting the other person rather than cri...