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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Taking Relationships For Granted
It is easy to take your relationship for granted. You come and go every day in your busy life with work and parenting without giving your relationship another thought. Meanwhile, as a couple, you have slowly begun to disconnect emotionally, physically and in your communication. How is your communica...
Criticism & Judgement in Relationships
What does criticism and judgement do to a relationship? When one partner is critical and judgemental towards their partner, they are putting themselves above the other person. It makes their partner feel they cannot be themselves, there is something wrong with them and they’re not good enough. They...
Needs in Relationships
Everyone in a relationship has needs and it’s important to be clear about what they are. For those who are people pleasers, this can make them feel very uncomfortable to have this conversation, so instead of sharing with their partner what their needs are, they say nothing to avoid what they suspect...
Loveless Relationships
Many couples go through their marriage/relationships as loveless and or sexless. This can last anywhere from 6yrs to over 20yrs depending if there are children or if one partner is more financially than the other. One person may beg their partner throughout the relationship to attend couples therapy...
Negative attitudes that damage your relationship
It is easy to take each other for granted after being together long-term. You forget about what it took to keep each other in the beginning. The way you spoke to each other, the dates, making each other a priority, daily phone calls and text messages, maybe gifts along the way and even flowers. But...
Relationship Conflict
Sometimes conflict in our relationship comes from our own family systems. Because there are two people in the relationship, you have two family systems affecting your relationship. So what are family systems? Family systems are how your family communicated and functioned during your childhood. These...
Most common issues in relationships
Most common issues in relationships that I see couples with are: No.1. Communication. No.2. Conflict management. Conflict has many parts which are addressed below. a. Talking over each other. b. Not listening to understand. c. Someone has to always be right. d. The same person backs down. e. Disresp...
Do you really know how to love your partner?
This may sound like a strange question to ask, however, if your parents did not model unconditional love, acceptance, forgiveness, consideration, compromise, or affection during your childhood/adolescence, you may not know how to have a healthy relationship. When couples form relationships, there is...
Relationships with Blended Families
Relationships are difficult in any family but blended families come with their own challenges. When there are two households involved, they’re going to come up with their own set of rules and boundaries. Maybe one household is seen as the “fun” family because they have fewer rules and the child/chil...
Why is it important to have clear boundaries?
People pleasers have difficulty setting boundaries for fear of not meeting the approval of others. People pleasers often recognise this is who they are which can develop from childhood and quite often because one parent was kind and generous to others. A child observes the appreciation returned to t...
Communication Styles in Relationships
Communication styles in a relationship can make or break a couple. Everyone needs to feel heard and validated, however, for each person to feel heard and validated this will not be the same for both individuals. One person may feel hurt by their partner’s words and will need their partner to just va...
Love Languages in Relationships
Everyone has at least one love language, even if you are not aware of what it is. We often give our partners what we need from them. You may be a very affectionate person but your partner did not come from affectionate parents and therefore affection makes them feel uncomfortable. This leaves you fe...