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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Gaslighting/Narcissism in Relationships
Narcissists are very good at confusing their partner during conflict. They have their partner mentally checking and double checking facts they know as their reality. The victim gets so caught up in defending themselves, the issues they raised or challenged behaviours get lost in the confusion they n...
Staying Together Because Of The Kids?
The kids know you’re unhappy, even if they don’t voice it. Kids don’t need two parents in one house. They need two emotionally safe parents. Conflict doesn’t disappear because it’s behind closed doors. It finds its way into every aspect of your home. The children feel it. They sense it. The children...
How to have a happy and loving relationship
Relationships are going to have conflict because people are not perfect. Relationships need communication and affection. But it takes more than this. Consider how you speak to each other? Do you leave each other feeling valued? Or do you leave the other person feeling emotionally bleeding? Do you ma...
What are married men looking for in affairs?
Men seek or are attracted to other women for many reasons. This is not to justify affairs. Affairs are never the answer. If there are feelings of disconnection, you should always contact a professional Counsellor. 1. Emotional and or physical disconnection. 2. Men need to feel desired by their partn...
Criticism in Relationships
This is a fast method to slowly chip away at your partner, destroying their self esteem and self worth. E.g. “You never do anything right!” “You never listen! I don’t know why I bother saying anything at all!” “I’d love you better if you lost weight!” “Why can’t you be more like Mary’s husband!” Com...
Gaslighting in Relationships
Gaslighting is part of domestic abuse, Narcissism and coercive control. Its intent is to manipulate, control, distort reality, and putting it mildly, to make the victim think they are going crazy. Gaslighting doesn’t just happen behind closed doors between the victim and the abuser. The abuser can m...
Battles in Relationships
The battles of addiction your parents gave up on, you’re now fighting. The battles of alcoholism your parents accepted, is now your battle! The battle of gambling your parents chose over their family is now your battle to fight! The battle of infidelity your parent chose over their family is now you...
Communication & Conflict
Communication and conflict go together and are the two most common issues in relationships. Conflict comes from ongoing poor communication skills which include not listening, not validating the other person’s feelings and leaving the other person not feeling heard. This creates resentment, criticism...
Relationships & Family Violence
Domestic abuse isn’t only physical. It is also verbal, psychological, financial, coercive control, intimidation, throwing things, slamming doors, banging things down on bench tops and dining tables to intimidate, lying down behind their partner’s car so they can’t leave, stopping their partner from...
Emotional Connection
Couples come together for connection. Without it, there is no lasting relationship. Why is emotional connection so important in your relationship? Emotional connection tells your partner they are valued,needed and desired. Without any connection you become two lonely people and if you are also raisi...
What happens when you stop caring for each other?
A lot of issues can lead to one or both partners not caring about the other. The main issues can be not feeling heard, feeling dismissed, not valued, not desired, or not made a priority in the relationship. Resentment and contempt build up. What does it look like when a partner no longer cares? They...
Relationships & Respect
Respect isn’t just the absence of name calling, other negative behaviours or criticism, giving your partner the silent treatment, yelling at them, mocking them, swearing at your partner, shutting them down, dismissing their opinion or feelings, being sarcastic towards them, or denying their feelings...