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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Communication & Conflict
Communication and conflict go together and are the two most common issues in relationships. Conflict comes from ongoing poor communication skills which include not listening, not validating the other person’s feelings and leaving the other person not feeling heard. This creates resentment, criticism...
Relationships & Family Violence
Domestic abuse isn’t only physical. It is also verbal, psychological, financial, coercive control, intimidation, throwing things, slamming doors, banging things down on bench tops and dining tables to intimidate, lying down behind their partner’s car so they can’t leave, stopping their partner from...
Emotional Connection
Couples come together for connection. Without it, there is no lasting relationship. Why is emotional connection so important in your relationship? Emotional connection tells your partner they are valued,needed and desired. Without any connection you become two lonely people and if you are also raisi...
What happens when you stop caring for each other?
A lot of issues can lead to one or both partners not caring about the other. The main issues can be not feeling heard, feeling dismissed, not valued, not desired, or not made a priority in the relationship. Resentment and contempt build up. What does it look like when a partner no longer cares? They...
Relationships & Respect
Respect isn’t just the absence of name calling, other negative behaviours or criticism, giving your partner the silent treatment, yelling at them, mocking them, swearing at your partner, shutting them down, dismissing their opinion or feelings, being sarcastic towards them, or denying their feelings...
Freezing Out in Relationships
Freezing out (also referred to as stone walling), occurs when there are long term relationship issues,creating contempt and criticism. Freezing out can be a result of ongoing feelings of not being heard, shutdown, talked over and not listened to. All of these feelings cause a person to pull away fro...
Speaking Up in Relationships
What happens to a relationship when one person does not speak up? Firstly, let’s look at the reasons why a partner feels they cannot speak up in their relationship. There are many reasons why someone would avoid not speaking up. The main reasons are avoiding the other person’s reaction. Afraid of be...
Habits that are pushing your partner away
When one partner is in emotional distress and their partner neglects to show empathy it pushes the hurting partner away because they do not feel valued, supported or loved. On the other hand, when one partner is hurting and the other partner offers empathy and compassion, the hurting partner maybe t...
How to connect with your Wife
Tune into your wife’s feelings. A woman needs to feel heard and validated. If she feels dismissed or shutdown, she will pull away in her communication, and emotional and physical connection. Women are emotionally wired so for her it is about how something makes her feel. How your tone of voice makes...
ADHD in Romantic Relationships
Your partner could be undiagnosed ADHD. Many adults are not diagnosed until their children are, when they realise they are similar to their child or they had similar struggles in school. ADHD is developed in childhood and persists as an adult because of life stresses. The partner who does not have A...
How to have conflict without ending your relationship
It is so easy to get caught up in issues and forget about what is really important….. your relationship. Issues are driven by pain, feelings of not being heard, an ongoing unresolved issue. Unresolved issues can lead to criticism, contempt, anger, distance, disconnection, and loneliness. Conflict is...
Emotionally Unavailable
Would you recognise if your partner was emotionally unavailable? These are the signs of a partner who is emotionally unavailable. Your partner does not validate your feelings or if you are generally talking to him on a subject. Your partner is distant, paranoid, inconsistent, and puts their goals, i...