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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
What are the emotional needs of a man in their relationship?
Men need to feel desired, respected, heard, wanted and needed. Men need to feel appreciated, encouraged and even cheered on. They need to feel accepted which builds on their self esteem. Men need to have mutual trust in a relationship to feel safe. They also need affection. Whether it be cuddling on...
Validation in Relationships
Each person needs to feel heard and validated in their relationship. So what happens when one person refuses to validate the feelings of their partner? When one person tells their partner they’re overreacting, they’re too sensitive or too needy? This stops emotional and physical connection. It makes...
Emotional Affairs And How Do They Affect Your Relationship?
Emotional affairs describe the emotional connection between two people outside of the primary relationship which leads to betrayal, hurt and the destruction of the primary relationship through ongoing deception. An emotional affair involves sharing intimate details and information of themselves, the...
Respect in Relationships
Relationships need respect. Without respect the relationship will fall apart and the couple will not care about each other. There will be distance between them and conflict. Both people will not feel heard. The relationship will be absent of any physical or emotional connection. What does disrespect...
Why is affection important in a relationship?
Let’s look at what a relationship looks like without affection to bring more clarity to this subject. Relationships are about connection. It is when two people decide they want to connect on an emotional and physical level and to connect on an intimate level. What happens when affection is missing b...
Domestic Violence & Coercive Control
Why is Coercive abuse is still abuse when it is not physical abuse and what is it? There are people living in domestic violence in their relationships but do not recognise their relationship as abusive because there is no physical abuse. So what is classed as abuse? Coercive abuse/coercive control....
Punishment in Relationships
Every relationship takes trust for it to work fundamentally. Without trust there is no relationship. Infidelity isn’t the only thing to erode a relationship. When one partner uses any form of punishment, they undermine trust in the relationship. Punishment is about power and control because it doesn...
Toxic Cycles in Relationships
Characteristics that will destroy your relationship. Perfectionism will take its toll on any relationship as well as being inflexible and rigid. These patterns come with unrealistic expectations that a partner will never reach. When a partner tries to please the person who displays these characteris...
How to have a happy and loving relationship
Relationships are going to have conflict because people are not perfect. Relationships need communication and affection. But it takes more than this. Consider how you speak to each other? Do you leave each other feeling valued? Or do you leave the other person feeling emotionally bleeding? Do you ma...
What are married men looking for in affairs?
Men seek or are attracted to other women for many reasons. This is not to justify affairs. Affairs are never the answer. If there are feelings of disconnection, you should always contact a professional Counsellor. 1. Emotional and or physical disconnection. 2. Men need to feel desired by their partn...
Criticism in Relationships
This is a fast method to slowly chip away at your partner, destroying their self esteem and self worth. E.g. “You never do anything right!” “You never listen! I don’t know why I bother saying anything at all!” “I’d love you better if you lost weight!” “Why can’t you be more like Mary’s husband!” Com...
Battles in Relationships
The battles of addiction your parents gave up on, you’re now fighting. The battles of alcoholism your parents accepted, is now your battle! The battle of gambling your parents chose over their family is now your battle to fight! The battle of infidelity your parent chose over their family is now you...