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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
When Love Hurts: Knowing When to Hold On and When to Let Go
We step into relationships with hope in our hearts, believing we have found “the one.” We imagine our future of shared dreams, laughter and unconditional support. However, this is not always reality and it is different to the picture we had in our mind. There are moments when love doesn’t feel safe,...
Love in the Shadows of Exhaustion
Marriage and relationship begin with laughter and energy. Things are often easy between you. As life goes on, relationship can get messy because of the toll of accumulated responsibilities – long work hours, children, bills piling up, and even those dreaded maintenance around the home. It feels like...
How to Fight Fair: Turning Arguments into Growth Opportunities
Every couple fight at some stage. But not every couple knows how to fight fair. Conflict is not a sign you shouldn’t be together. Why Conflict Happens Stress, unmet needs, miscommunication, and different expectations or unmet expectations. The Wrong Way to Fight Common destructive patterns: Blame-sh...
When Couples Grow Distant
Many couples become disconnected, not because they stop loving eachother, but because their needs go unspoken. For example, a wife at home raising children full time longs for affection from her husband but she feels guilty asking anything from her husband who is exhausted from working over time eve...
Be Intentional
When you need to have a difficult conversation with your partner, be intentional. Here are some phrases to use. “Honey I need to talk to you about something that is important to me.” “I would like to talk to you – not to blame you. To be understood.” “Can we have a talk about something […]
Peace in Relationships
Everyone wants peace in their relationships, however this takes positive communication. We can build up our partner or tear them down with our words. It is not always a lack of love that causes distance between a couple. It is often the way a couple communicate that cause a disconnection. Peace isn’...
Showing Up For Each Other
Showing up for your partner means different things to different people so it is important to understand your partner’s needs. Showing up means actively listening to your partner without distractions. This means look at your partner while they are talking and validate their feelings and perception on...
Conflict/Needs in Relationships
Depending on the family you grew up in will determine if you run toward conflict or away from conflict because of how conflict makes you feel. As a child, if you came from a high conflict family with lots of yelling and screaming, you may carry childhood trauma because of the way conflict made you [...
Infidelity in Relationships
Why would some cheat on their partner, risk their relationship and what affect does it have on their partner? No one enters a relationship with the intention of cheating on their partner and no one enters a relationship with their partner expecting them to cheat, otherwise you would leave them befor...
Are you in a marriage trying to connect with your wife?
You want your wife to be more connected with you and you don’t know how to reach her. Sometimes women will tell their husband what it is their needing. However, their husband is missing the queues. Sometimes the husband hears the queues and still decides not to listen to his wife then wonders why sh...
Dismissiveness in Relationships
No one likes to be dismissed in their relationship when trying to have a conversation with their partner. It makes the other person feel not heard or valued to their partner. When one person talks over their partner with their own conversationsation, it makes their partner feel what they have to say...
Undermining your partner in front of the children
One fast way to tear down your relationship is by undermining each other in front of the kids. The different ways of doing this is through criticism, disrespect, contradicting, and belittling or overriding what the other parent has told the kids. This creates a window for the kids to play off one pa...