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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Affairs
Affairs are always painful to go through because of the betrayal experienced by the person you have invested emotionally and intimately with. An affair is a betrayal because the person you feel the safest with emotionally has been emotionally intimate with another person. Often the offending party d...
Red Flag Relationship Is In Trouble
Communication is the pillar of any relationship. Without it, the relationship is looking at an expiry date. Some people come from families where feelings were not discussed or acknowledged. In some families, feelings were pushed down and ignored and there was no safe place emotionally to express nee...
Importance of Communication In Relationships
It is important for both people in their relationship to communicate their needs. Some people have come from a family system where feelings were not discussed. Maybe feelings were pushed down to avoid conflict. A child from this family system learns to avoid conflict and maybe to back down in confli...
Relationships Messages
Our past can determine how we interpret our partner’s messages. Whether it is our childhood or past toxic relationships that we are affected by past experiences can affect the way we interpret conversations. Defensiveness can come from a victim mentality because of previous putdowns, criticism and o...
Relationships Consideration
How considerate are you of each other and what does this look like? Consideration in a relationship ranges anywhere from listening to each other in a conversation to doing the other person’s chores because they either haven’t had the time, they’re not well, they’re exhausted or just because you want...
Relationship Issues
Often in relationships, one person will be telling their partner there are issues in the relationship and they want to go to relationship counselling with them, however, their partner tells them they are happy so the issue must be them. They’re the ones with the problem, so they need to get help to...
How tolerant are you of your partner?
Do the smallest things cause you both to be reactive? How you both handle stress will affect your relationship. It can be a combination of a hard day at work driving hours to work, coming home and looking after children, cooking meals and doing the chores. All of this can be enough to push you […]
Are you a good communicator?
You might be better than you think. Have you thought about what it is you are communicating to your partner? What are your actions and words telling your partner? Does your partner feel valued by your actions? What do I mean by this? Let’s say your partner wanted you to reduce the amount you drink [...
Have you treat and speak to your partner
Have you given much thought about how you treat and speak to your partner? Would they feel valued and listened to by you or do you show your annoyance with them quickly? Who do you go to for an opinion on an important matter? Do you go straight to your partner or to a family […]
Conflict In Relationships
Men and women are wired differently. Generally speaking, men tend to get over arguments almost immediately, especially if there has been an apology from another man. For a woman, generally speaking, they are emotionally wired. What this means is a woman may wound easily. If a woman does not have the...
Listening is Caring
Everyone deserves to be heard in a relationship but what does this look like? Listening isn’t just about being quiet while your partner is talking and you’re in your head thinking about what you want to say next. Listening is about eye contact, positive body language and listening to your partner’s...
Would you recognise gaslighting if you heard it?
Here are some examples of gaslighting and Narcissistic Personality Disorder behaviours. “You can’t feel that way because I don’t!” “You don’t have a right to feel that way!” “What you think isn’t important!” “You know you’re crazy don’t you!” “Everyone says you’re crazy!” “That never happened!” “I d...