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Articles on relationships, family and wellbeing.
Criticism & Contempt In Relationships
When things are off track in a relationship, criticism and contempt can cause mistrust. The couple has replaced healthy communication with a negative script, writing the story their partner does not care what they think or feel while telling themselves they’re not valued, cared for, or desired and t...
Repairing Relationships
Don’t wait until your relationship is in trouble before you decide to have those deep conversations that should have been shared years before. Recognising there are issues in your relationship, and pushing them aside until your relationship is at breaking point is like deciding you should have swimm...
Communication in Relationships
Words are powerful and they can build up your relationship or tear it down. The lack of communication also destroys a relationship. When there is hurt caused, one or both people may pull away. They stop responding to each other in love. They begin to sabotage any attempts to repair the relationship....
A Transactional Relationship
What happens when your relationship becomes transactional and what does this look like? A transactional relationship is a relationship that works on the currency of tit for tat. What this means is the attitude between the couple is “Why should I do this for you when you won’t do this for me?” This a...
How to know you are in a Narcissistic relationship?
I have clients who ask me “Are you sure my partner is a Narcissist? You don’t even know them!” I explain by their description of their partner’s behaviour, reactions, accusations and emotional manipulation, I don’t have to know their partner personally to identify Narcissistic Personality Disorder....
Relationships & Separation
Telling children you are no longer together with the other parent. When you both decide the relationship cannot be saved, you will need to have that conversation with the children that all of you will be living in two separate homes. How you tell them can affect them throughout their childhood, teen...
Relationships & Narcissism
Would you recognise lovebombing before the relationship began and after the relationship ended? In the beginning, lovebombing may look something like being made to feel special early on such as an overdose of compliments or gifts, taken to restaurants, or you may be referred to as their soul mate, b...
Domestic Violence & Emotional Abuse In Relationships
Emotional Abuse And Are You In It? What does emotional abuse look like? Does your partner explode and then blame you for their outburst? Are you walking on eggshells in your own home afraid you will do something wrong around your partner? Your partner gets up in a bad mood and you know to stay […]
Does your partner feel loved?
Does your partner feel loved, valued, supported or a priority in the relationship or do they feel replaced at times by your friends, alcohol, drugs, your work, sports, gaming etc? Has your partner pleaded with you to stay home so you can both spend quality time together but you ignore the pleas and...
Triggers in Relationships
Sometimes our reactions to our partner or our family and even outsiders can come from a deep place within us. We don’t realise we carry the trauma and burdens of our childhood. We can push the memories down and think we are not affected by them, however, our body stores the trauma, feelings and memo...
Relationships & Separation
There are many reasons why marriages fail. Anything from infidelity to ongoing conflict, not feeling heard, feelings not validated, not feeling respected, domestic violence, coercive abuse, and verbal and psychological abuse. When there are children involved this can make separation more painful. Of...
Does your relationship feel stale?
You might be feeling your relationship has grown stale. Maybe your partner has said they are not happy. Maybe both of you have become snappy with each other. Do you think back to when your relationship was better and you both looked forward to coming home to each other? Are the following missing in...