Understanding the impact of Trauma and Childhood Messages in Relationships

Couples can get caught up in reactions because of tone of voice which escilates their conflict.

One doesn’t feel heard or validated while the other feels dismissed.

Why does this happen?

Trauma responses can leave a person tone sensitive and body language sensitive.

Internal childhood messages run as unconscious scripts sabotaging relationships.

E.g. “I’m not lovable.”

“I’m not valuable.”

“My needs don’t matter.”

A partner’s neutral comment may be heard as a criticism or rejection due to old wounds.

One or both partners may be watching for signs of disapproval or abandonment.

One partner mat attribute their own fears or unresolved feelings onto their partner.

One partner may emotionally revert to a child-like state when triggered, reacting to their partner as a parent.

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